Greetings Lovers of Life!
One Love Nugget of Wisdom. Apply liberally to your life of love.
I am working on a goal-setting process for the new year. I’m pretty good at actualizing concrete goals in which the steps for action are clear, doable, and in my control. I have a harder time figuring out action plans for goals that seem invisible. Like my goal to meet my mate and have a baby together. I can do all the wishing and believing I want, but what are some actual actions I can take to make this “out there” thing come into being? Do you have any suggestions for daily and monthly actions that can help me achieve this one?
Making it real
Dear Making It Real,
I love your goal and I bow to your willingness to bring the vision of your heart into fruition. My sense is that this vision stems from the root of deep knowing and divine inspiration, rather than from the epic egoic “I, Me and Mine”-want-want-want mumbo jumbo. Your trinity is Me-Mate-Baby, and magnetizing/receiving this reality as well as sustaining conscious, life giving relationship within it will require surrender and a whole lotta selflessness. In light of this, here are a few action items to add to your quiver of alchemical manifestation.
- Become a devoted disciple of love. Follow the Dreaming wherever love leads you. Love your life, love your peeps, love your opportunity to live fully, love the heart and core of the mystery that appears as you. This will MAGNETIZE real love into your life.
- Become a devotee of Love for its own sake (not as a ‘deal’ get the loot). Be willing to let go of the whole picture of “me, mate, babe” for the fulfillment of divine love, trusting that if the form of that trinity IS in your highest good, it will in fact come to pass.
- Create a daily, weekly or bi monthly ritual (for full moon & new moon), where you consciously reach out and connect with your mate and baby energetically. Talk to them. Call them to you. Better yet, sing them to you. Use your creativity, spontaneity and playfulness to make this real for yourself. Invite the elements, mother nature and any god/goddess/guide divine ally to join you.
- Tell all your trusted, most aligned friends about your heart’s desire and receive their support in networking, and supporting you.
- Clear all conflicts and ambivalence you may have that would otherwise sabotage your manifestation/receiving. Sometimes even a tiny glitch of unattended fear/conflict will be like a thorn in your side. As Peter Gabriel says, “I have my fears, so they don’t have me.” This means loving examination of all the beliefs, conflicts, agreement fields and fears in the space surrounding committed relationships, mate-hood and even parenthood. I suggest right brained activities to support you; such as mandalas, non-dominant hand journaling dialogues, role playing with internal voices and loving conversations with trusted friends. The key here is curiosity and presence rather than diagnostic productivity. Rather than a linear practice, simply jump in – dive in (to yourself) and explore any time you experience a conflict trigger.
- Write a wanted add or personal profile with the bare truth and let it seed out into the world in print and through the mega possibilities on the web. Along the lines of: “I am the love of your life. Amazing, loving, creative….etc, person, ready to connect with my soul mate, live deeply in love and meet you for conscious, equal partnership, creating an incredible life together, including a baby! You are my match. You resonate deeply with my heart and are called to meet your soul mate (me) and start a family as well. You are fearless and willing in all things love – vulnerable, undefended, deep. No nonsense. Playful, but no games. I know you are out there. Earnest possibilities need only inquire.”
Remember, what you seek is seeking you! Develop trust in your heart’s knowing and give yourself fearlessly to love and life, just as you want your mate to show up for you, and his life. Then, if by chance it is not in the stars…you will have already given yourself with full devotion to the divine trinity of You, the Earth and the Universe. And that is as holy a trinity as it gets, everything else just springs from that bounty.
Energizing your vision.